Cognitive Principle Matrix Information

The three elements of educational change are: Create a new habit and change the bad habit, using specific tools, but mainly the Stop, find method TM creates the new habit in the subconscious mind. Putting the tools into action. The Stop, find method creates the new habit within a few days. While the client is being educated the counsellor: Models the principle [or emotion] to the client. For example, models a relationship principle of respect, or an influencing principle of calmness or a negative principle of anxiousness or a spiritual principle of forgiveness. As long as the belief behind the unresolved issue is held, the bad habit will continue. In cognitive principle therapy the behavior which caused the unresolved issue is not important, therefore, the past is not important, other than to identify how the event/s affected the attachment areas of trust, respect, acceptance or commitment. The simple message is this: You are either in control or you are not! If you are out of balance and not in control, then you take things personally and break the first golden rule of cognitive principle therapy, that is: When it is positive it is personal, but when it is negative it is behavioral. For example: The three negative emotions which affect commitment, are guilt, anxiousness and confusion. When taken personally they become, shame, panic and hopelessness, causing you to get out of balance and loose control. If you get out of balance and lose control then the negative principle will override the positive principle. For example, fear with override trust, anger will override respect and rejection will override acceptance. The cognitive approach is to teach the purpose of all the negative principles of fear, anger, criticalness, etc and how to accept these and use your influencing principles to restore your relationship principles. For example, accept your anger, grow assertiveness and restore respect. The whole process is easily understood by most clients. The tools to correct a bad habit are either taught through ...